Are you self-sabotaging your own success?

The biggest barrier to your success could be you: Self-sabotage

So you’ve set a goal, and you’ve started working towards it energetically and a few days down the line without even noticing we are back to our old habits that are hindering our growth.

Perhaps you’re working towards landing new clients for your business but when it comes to marketing yourself, you procrastinate on every single project. You’ve taken up a gym membership but suddenly you’re too tired or aching from an old injury. And everyone’s favorite. I’m too busy.

We all have been in situations where we get in our own way and block our path towards growth.

But why do we self-sabotage?

Our subconscious brain seeks comfort and perceives anything outside our comfort zone as a threat, even if we consciously know that it will make us happier.

Whenever we know that our performance is being evaluated in some way, we self-handicap ourselves with excuses to justify our poor performance or lack of effort.

So, as soon as you move out of your comfort zone, you respond with destructive habits to protect yourself from the pain of failure.

Here are some examples of self-sabotaging behaviours:

1. Procrastination:

Are you doing everything in your power to avoid working on that important work project or getting out the door to go to the gym? Yep, that’s self-sabotage at play.

2. Commitment issues:

Have you ever made a new friend or started a relationship and suddenly felt the urge to run backward without any reason?

3. Constant worry & doubt:

Hello overthinking !! Whenever you’re stuck in the loop of constant worry & doubt. You tend to forget even the basic tasks such as taking a shower or worse forgetting to brush your teeth. This auto mode fuels your worry and sends you into a constant guilt cycle.

4. Indulging in destructive habits:

So you started a new workout or nutrition plan but not sticking with it just because you feel blah! and nothing feels right?

5. Just give up:

when nothing is going your way, you put your hands up and give up.

So how can you stop self-sabotaging?

1. Self-awareness:

You can’t find a solution before you know what the exact problem is. Tracking your habits and understanding your triggers brings you clarity.The difference between ranting about “why am I such a mess? ” and knowing that you haven’t moved your body thrice in a row this week is that the later results in a real problem you can either fix or take action towards solving.

Journaling is one of the key habits that will build your self-awareness muscle specially when you’ve never kept a diary other than a dear diary. You know it’s time to get yourself a guided journal. You can check out our wellness journal which will guide you like a life coach and the best part is once you start practicing it, it becomes a ritual that you look forward to.

2. Cultivate your self-worth:

While you work through this important step, tap into the feelings of worthiness. We often self-sabotage because we don’t feel worthy of our goals, and recognizing this is a crucial step in moving forward.

How do you cultivate feelings of worthiness, you ask? You open the self-empowerment section in our wellness journal and write down your strengths and weakness. Learn to appreciate the contrast and work around it. Focus on building your strengths, rather than trying to improve your weakness. Start practicing affirmations that help you reframe your negative beliefs with our affirmation cards.

3. Eat the frog first:

Do the most daunting task first thing in the morning. Now I know as much as seems counter-intuitive because a task that is hard or lacks clarity brings us back to the loop of procrastination. So how do we do it? The steps for it is three-fold :

a) Plan your tasks a day prior i.e. during your nighttime routine. It helps you prioritize what is important and gain clarity about it. Our wellness journal is a balance between planning and self-care to give you the best of both worlds.

b) Break the task into small little actions that can be performed without any resistance. For example, if you wish to create content, start by focusing on creating the right environment one day before you jump into planning and shooting video content.

c) Find an accountability partner: It can be an app that lets you focus on work by limiting your screen time or a partner that checks on your progress every once in a while.

4. Show compassion and self-love:

It’s OK to take a break once in a while and re-evaluate what sparks joy. Use downtime to explore rather than sitting on your bed the entire day. Read blogs, go on walks, take a massage, and long showers. You can start with our gratitude journal where you can meditatively color and express gratitude more scientifically. And raise your vibrations while you are taking that time off so that when you finally decide to come back, your energy attracts all that you’ve been planning for.